A question came to me today. I have no idea why. I think I was riding the Harley home from work, contemplating everything. Was possibly thinking of sick friends, or perhaps I had heard something on the news about someone being sick or dying. I just don’t know. But then the question appeared:
Why do we get so upset about something that is inevitable?Death. It is inevitable. It WILL happen. We cannot stop it. Sometimes (only sometimes) can we delay it. But this thought occurred to me that we get very attached to other people (in this case people; I won’t even go into pets and such) and we usually get pretty upset when they die. And yet … we KNOW they will die. Or we will. Between you and your friend/partner/spouse/whoever, one of the two of you will go first. We all know this will happen. And yet, even with this foreknowledge, knowing that our love or attachment must be only temporary, we still get upset when the inevitable happens.
This must be my logical side. Of course, logic dictates that we don’t get attached to anyone (or anything) in that way in the first place. But that is just logic. We’re human. We HAVE to get attached. We HAVE to fall in love. This is what Captain Kirk spent 3 seasons (wow … it was only 3 seasons???? I admit I had to just look that up …) trying to teach Mr. Spock about. We HAVE to have that longing feeling (as opposed to “That Loving Feeling” as performed by The Righteous Brothers some time ago) for another person, animal or, perhaps sometimes, even something inanimate.
Now, that latter proposition could perhaps make some sense. Having some strange human attachment for something inanimate (a rock? A tchochke? (wow, did I spell that right?) a car or really cool motorcycle?) might make just a little sense if we know that the object will outlast us. A car? Usually not. A rock or a tchochke? Why not? Unless it gets lost or broken, it can very well outlast us and our kids and our kids’ kids. So, in some strange way, that kinda sorta does make some sense.
But falling for someone who we KNOW has a limited time with us really is, when you get down to it, just plain silly. It makes no sense.
So why do we get so upset about something we know is inevitable?I don’t know. I’ve actually been mulling that over in my head all day since the thought occurred to me. And I unfortunately have nothing to show for it.